Elizabeth, you would take a bath with your 12 or 13 year old son?
I'd really like to hear what your reasons would be for doing this. Also, why would you sleep with children of this age, even if they were yours? I could see if they were younger, but at that age? If you sent your 12 yr old son over to your absolute closest friend in the world's house, and he reports to you later that he slept in bed with that friend...FOR WHATEVER REASON...if that doesn't alarm you I would really like to know why.
FWIW, I firmly believe that there comes an age...usually about 9 or 10, where it starts to become unhealthy for a child to sleep in the same bed even with their own parents.
Now of course, in cases where the family is too poor to avoid the situation I can see some concessions being made...my wife slept with her little sister up until we were married...but a 13 year old boy who sleeps in the same bed with his parents is going to have issues...this I can guarantee!
A 13 year old boy who sleeps in the same bed with the very wierd and eccentric entertainer with the surgically destroyed face and the overzealous obsession with children...has at least 1 parent or guardian who needs to be HORSEWHIPPED!!!
BTW, my half sister slept in the same bed with her mother into her 20s...and as far as I'm concerned it FUKKED HER UP!!!