ADVICE PLEASE

[filmwizdaddy]

I will be very BLUNT




I have really never had a long relationship with a girl friend before. Maybe at the most a few months. However, I have never had taken the time to really PURSUE a female like I probably should.....I have always felt the CHASING GAME IS LAME......But I realize more a purpose to it. SO for the first time in my life I am letting this beatiful girl play with me a little. SHE KNOWS VERY WELL I am interested in her. However, She doesn't answer her phone when I call her. BUT SHE GAVE IT TO ME......she really doesn't seem to mind me seeing her at the club. SHe works at night club in town. I have asked her out to a show ( I work at a theatre in town...Live theatre...) she tells me yeah but call her about it on the weekend. She went to my high school with me so there is some common ground. SHe isn't at all stand offish and she at her mature age would most likely would have let me know by now if she wasn't interested.


AND I HAVE GOTTEN PLENTY EXCUSES FROM FEMALES IN THE PAST TELLING ME THAT THEY AREN'T INTERESTED RIGHT OFF THE BAT.


ANYONE GOT ANY ADVICE?

[Etherspin]

all sounds in your favour.. just why the hell wont she answer her phone??? is she at work or is there any other possible reason??

[Cozmo D]

Sounds like a waste of time to me. She's a beautiful girl who works at a nightclub, which means that she gets propositioned ALL OF THE TIME. Since she went to school with you she's being nice by giving you the number and saying yes, but she sure doesn't seem all that interested. Tell her to CALL YOU when she's ready to go out, and assume she won't. Consider it a bonus if she does, otherwise, she's a fly chick that you know that works at a nightclub...has to be an advantage there somewhere.

[Boogie]

Being in nightclubs 99% of my life I have to agree with Coz on this homeboy.

[SaintHax]

I get more action out of a girl when I make an open move for her attention then ignore her

[Brian221]

Action, yes...kinda girl you want to stay with, doubt it.

[filmwizdaddy]

Here is my concept.



Imagine this.........I will show up so much at this club the day that she works that she will know that I am relentless. UNtil I hear out of her mouth " I am not interested in you" Or otherwise serious conversation stating she isn't interested. I will continue to show up there....every week approaching her with interest. I am in this not for play only but for a relationship........


NOW THIS PHILOSiphy of ALL CLUB GIRLS ARE TOO PREOCCUPIED OR POSSIBLY GETTING TOO MUCH ATTENTION IS BOGUS.......just generalizations. My opinion. SOMEONE IS GOING TO HAVE TO APPROACH HER FOR RELATIONSHIP SOMETIME. Might as well be me.

LOVE AT ALL COSTS........the problem here would be not taking a chance at all. That would be my downfall. NOW THIS ISSUE WITH LETS GO HOME FOR THE NIGHT THING I THINK WOULD ANNOY THEM EVEN MORE........


You know if you think about it......if many guys think that about her.....many won't apporach her that way because we associate a night club with the fast life. We automatically believe that people working there are way too fast for the average man. SO therefore I can see many men just passing her by as just a fuckable girl. Probably makes her feel more used. SHe and many other girls working there may wonder "WHY ARE GUYS NOT SERIOUS ABOUT APPORACHING ME FOR A RELATIONSHIP." AND SHE BECOMES PIGEON HOLED INTO THIS ROLE. MUCH LIKE STRIPPERS ARE PORNO STARS OR FREAKS THAT ARE SCREWED UP ALL THE TIME. TOO FAST......THEY WOULD NEVER WANT MARRIAGE. IT DOESN"T MAKE SENSE TO THEM, THIS IDEA OF MARRIAGE, RIGHT?? I feel that is funny.

You know what, I did ask her to come home with me. and she said this " you know I cant do that" I TOTTALLY AGREE WITH YOU WHEN YOU SAY SHE GETS A LOT OF ATTENTION. BUT IMAGINE ALL THE GUYS TRYING TO GET IN HER PANTS. THAT WOULD ANNOY THE FUCK OUT OF HER after a while. That is mainly why she said NO...most likely.


The fact is I believe everyone would love to have a significant other at some point. If someone says no then I think that they are in denial.




YOU KNOW THINK ABOUT WHAT WE GENERALIZE WOMEN IN CERTAIN ENVORINMENTS....ALL Female bartenders are too fast.....THEY ARE WORKING AROUND ALCOHOL......THEREFORE THEY PARTY ALL THE TIME.......TOO MUCH PARTYING FOR A RELATIONSHIP.


ALSO UPTIGHT FOOLS MAY THINK THESE TYPE OF WOMEN ARE ALWAYS HIGH OR DRUNK.........NON COHERENT. UNABLE TO PROPERLY FUNCTION AS A WIFE.......

[SaintHax]

this is so wack :bowlaugh:

[filmwizdaddy]

anna

[Cozmo D]

Who said anything about taking her home for the night? That's about the stupidest approach I've ever heard. The fact that you've already tried it and now you can't even get her to answer your calls speaks volumes.

And now you plan to show up at her JOB so much that she will know that you're "relentless"? Why did you even bother asking for advice when you had this winning plan in your back pocket? Yeah, the good old "stalking" approach never fails. GO FOR IT MAN!

[Brian221]

Originally posted by filmwizdaddy@Nov 30 2004, 08:52 PM
Imagine this.........I will show up so much at this club the day that she works that she will know that I am relentless. UNtil I hear out of her mouth " I am not interested in you" Or otherwise serious conversation stating she isn't interested. I will continue to show up there....every week approaching her with interest. I am in this not for play only but for a relationship........

She'll probably never tell you she's not interested because she'll enjoy the attention.
Don't get sucked into what I like to call "the game." Almost all girls play it and only girls can win.

[filmwizdaddy]

Like BOBBY BROWN SAID ON HIS CD "BOBBY"




Two can play that game..............





Oh thats right copyright........sampled the title to "two can play that game" (Riley/Belle/Guppy/Brown) Used with Permission


Better be safe then sorry......I have been getting into trouble saying a lot of shit these days, even thinking shit too. Hell I can't even get angry with someone telling me I am legally in trouble. Better be Careful!!!!!!!! Cause they will want to have control over you emotions too!!!!!!!!!!!!! :blahblah: :crossjerk: :ugh2:



I can't even say "shes dead" or "your dead" Legally........well there goes the neighborhood. ANd be careful cuz people with a badge and uniform have SPECIAL PRIVLEDGES IN THE WAY THEY CAN TREAT YOU....... :tinker:




oh Merry Christmas.

[Etherspin]

dude, them in the uniforms have no special privileges over you , saying your dead can be considered a threat and puts you in the same potential legal position as it would them if they said it to you.

[BigRed82]

reminds me of a lyric
"Bullet or the chapstick"

I dunno why.

Dude... I'm not as wise as Coz but it seems like his first reply to this was pretty ace. If this girl is really nice she isn't gonna just say *no* to you right off....... keep going to the bar and you may find some resolution whatever that may be.











(though I don't believe it's going to be what you're looking for)

[The_Kay_Dee]

She is NOT going to tell you she isn't interested until things get creepy.
Do you order drinks from her while at the club? Do you give hella large tips?
More than likely ( I'm the one your.... wrong thread)
any how I think you do. Why? most guys like to IMPRESS the woman they have set thier sights on and, show they have more than a room at moms house.
If you tIP HER LARGE AMOUNTS, SHE IS IN heaven WITH THE DOUGH.
That and the fact that you return freequently equals- Regular payday.
Stop tipping her and buying stuff from her. Sit and try a conversation not begun or accentuated by the order and exchange of money.
This will show you exactly how much she likes you vs. the dollar, dollar bill! If she carries the conversation after she realizes there will be no $$$$$ she may just be interested, THAT is when you drop YOUR #
and tell her to call if and when she is ready to go out.
If not, LEAVE immediately after ordering several strong drinks,
pounding them down until severely sloshed and urinating on her leg. She WILL CALL YOU!!!
( A Bastard, nasty muthaf*cka, Pervert etc, etc....)
:wavey: