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I got called at work (night shift) saying he collapsed, he had surgery about a week ago to remove a cyst on his pancreas and they removed his spleen and gall bladder...he hasn't been feeling well since that but appeared to be recovering and was here at home so...
I'm still not sure how to feel, a bit dazed and confused I guess, then again you expect this to happen at some point but you never feel the feeling till it happens...I'm not gonna go cry my eyes out since it's pointless and doesn't solve anything, but I think I will go ponder what I'm feeling right now and try to understand it. It's defiantly a weird feeling, happy that he's not in pain nor in a worn out body, sad that I won't see him everyday like I used to.
I don't really need the "I'm sorry for your loss" stuff...doesn't change anything I just figured I could unload a bit by telling someone.
Got a loved one? tell them you love them before it’s too late...it's a simple thing to say :happysad:
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I am sorry to hear of your loss. Great advice on the telling them you love them part however. My dad and i say that to each other more often now. It's a gift to have loving parents ,friends or family. Cherish them while you can. Again....i feel for your loss..
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My sympathies are with you, man. My dad has had three heart attacks and is in poor health as well. The last time he came to visit both my wife and I had the feeling that it would be the last time we saw him.
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Hax man, you have my deepest sympathy. I attended three funerals of very close people this winter and I kinda know what you are going thru. Be as strong as you can and take one day at a time. :sad:
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my prayers for you and your family man...seriously...
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damn bro...sorry to hear that...yo...pm me ya address...maybe me & jarett will come check you on our way back from FLA.
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Hax, my condolences to you at your time of loss...just know that if you need anyone, that we're here for you.
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well I got some sleep and no it isn't a dream...it's about as real as it gets...I'm still clueless on this feeling thing...I spent some time with my dad's body before I left the hospital and said what I needed to say to him so it’s not like a total loss or anything…it’s just weird
and yeah I know you guys got my back…thanks
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my deepest sympathies and condolences to you man.....if you ever need anyone ...i got your back too.... :happysad:
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Damm...sorry for your loss Jay.
Not sure if this will help, but when my grandmother died (who I loved with all my heart) I had a similar feeling. I guess all these years later I feel it's like she's still walking with me, and I sum it up as that. I still dream about her from time to time, and she's always comforting or encouraging.
You know we're here man. :happysad:
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Damn Jason, sorry to hear that. I got you too. :sadwave:
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oh damn hax.
my thoughts are with you and your family. even if it is an inevitable thing, that's still some harsh shit to have to deal with.
a moment of silence............................
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well I just stopped by the century 21 office and told them, the owners sold us our house when we moved to GA about 10 years ago and they were our first official friends in this new town. They were telling me how he'd come in a lot and say hi and tell them what I'm up to and how proud he was of the things I've done and are doing.
So I guess all in all he was happy when he left, he saw that I was a really good model heli pilot which I practiced so hard to be, he saw that I know my computer stuff that I hammer into my head all the time, he saw that I was always trying to move forward and get somewhere even though I was getting knocked back down all the time. I made my dad proud...maybe that's why I'm not going nuts right now, I'm calm knowing that I've done stuff in his eyes that he's proud of, and that he left happy because of it.
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It is good to hear that you are handling this as well as possible, I can't even begin to think about how I would handle a situation like this. Much love man
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condolenses jason ... how old was your dad?
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I can't imagine how you're feeling or what you're going through. I know people deal with things differently, but you know we are all here if you need to talk to someone. My parents split when I was 2 so I didn't spend the time I wanted to with my father, but we've always been extremely close despite it all. We have this unspoken communication, and are so much alike. A few weeks ago I got the scare of my life when he called me and told me he had just had congestive heart failure (of course for my sake he waited till AFTER he got out of the hospital :madrant: ). The thought of losing my father has always been in the back of my mind and when it nearly happened it was not an easy thing to deal with. He's never been within arms length, but knowing he's there has always been a comfort to me. I'm glad you got to say your peace, that's one thing some people don't get a chance to do.
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I feel like shit... :happysad:
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I'm sorry to hear this hax, my thoughts are with you, I'm glad things were good between you and him before this happened.. all the best man.. we are with you
